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By Tien
My name is Tien. I am a mother of 3 and the 4th on the way,
currently 30wks pregnant with a baby boy. I would like to
congratulate you on your pregnancy, birth and beyond website. I
loved it especially the birth stories. Your website is very
informative and educational. I see that you only had one teenage
birth story online so I would like to share my birth stories with
you.
I found out I was pregnant with my 1st child when I was 15yrs old, I
was in yr 10 at high school then. I had the feeling I was pregnant
but being so young I was in denial and keep pushing it at the back
of my mind hoping it will go away on its own. Soon my stomach
swelled up so big that I couldn't deny any longer
and went to the local doctor with my closest friends. One of my
girlfriends went in with me while my other friend and my boyfriend
waited outside for the news. I think my friend was in a lot more
shock then I was! she kept on say" oh my god, oh my god!"
I went out and told my boyfriend and friends and they were all
really happy for us. I was lucky in enough to have a boyfriend that
loved me in enough to stick around, and sure enough he stuck for
nearly 15yrs now!
Telling my mum and family was my biggest hurdle. I slip it out
during a argument with her one night. She sat me and my boyfriend
down and told me that I can either have an abortion and stay home,
continue with my schooling or else I must leave and never to return
again. I chose the later. Lucky for me my boyfriends family was very
understanding and took me in. My mum did come around to talk to his
parents and ask them have a talk with us. My mum desperately wanted
me to have an abortion and come home, thinking I am to young to have
a child.
I continued to stay with my boyfriends family. I had an very easy
pregnancy.
The night of 11th of April 1996 I started to have contractions at
9pm, I laboured at home until I no longer can stand it and woke up
my boyfriend and his family. We all packed into the car, his mum,
dad and 2 younger sisters. The hospital was a long way but been a
stormy night it made it so much longer. I didn't have a smooth
labour at all. the pain was unbearable, so much that I begged the
doctor to give me a c - section even tho I am scared to death of
operation! at that time I didn't care as long as the baby was out
and the pain gone. I ended up with an epidural and forceps delivery.
I wasn't happy at all with the forceps delivery, my baby boy ended
up with a 1cm scare right at the corner of one of his eyes, nearly
blinding him, beside that he was a healthy boy weighting 2.9kgs.
My mum came to visit the next day and after that. Soon all my family
came around as well. My friends were also wonderful.
We continued to live with my boyfriends parents until 2001 when we
moved out on our own and I fell pregnant again. This pregnancy was
also uneventful. The only thing was I had only gain 3 kilos in the
whole nine months and doctor was concern that baby wasn't growing
inside so she decided to induce me. My 2nd labour was very much
different from the first. The pain was much more intense with the
Picton. My parents in law asked the nurse when I would be having
baby and the nurse said not until late afternoon so my parents
in-law said to my partner to ring them when the time is near. My
partner also decided to go out and move the car so we were get
fined. When he got back I was already starting to push. Lucky he got
back just in time! I Push for another 30mins and my little girl came
out into the world with a big lungful of scream. she was a healthy
but tiny 2.2kgs.
We were trying for another baby straight afterwards but it didn't
happen until I finally gave up. My 3rd pregnancy was also
uneventful. My waters broke on fathers day while I was getting ready
to go out and celebrate with my in-laws. This time labour wasn't so
smooth as my last. dilated to 10cm in an hour but after 30mins of
pushing doctor decided to vacuum because baby was still high up and
wont come down. The pain was unbelievable. The didn't give me any
drugs at all and I felt every tug and pull. My partner sat there
looking very angry and upset. He didn't like what he was seeing at
all and was in no mood to support me either. Afterwards I asked him
why he didn't give me any encouragement and he said his heart was
torn apart seeing how much pain I was in and seeing the doctor
trying to rip out his sons head! I think if the doctor gave baby
more time he will come down on his own. My son came out with an
extra thumb but he was a very healthy baby , weighting 2.8kgs. We
named him Alex and he is having his extra thumb remove in 2 weeks
time. Lucky it does effect his hand movement at all and will not
make it look deform either.
I am now 30wks pregnant with my fourth baby. So far so good. The
only discomfort I feel is my ribs being sore from baby poking it. I
am praying this time around I wont have to have assisted labour.
Even though I have an happy ending but if given the chance I would
do it differently. I would try to finish my schooling before I start
a family, but having said that I would never swap my kids for
anything at all, they are my life and joy. I am hoping to go back to
studying once my kids are all in school. My oldest is in high school
this year, my daughter started preschool and my youngest at home.
Got my hands full now!
thanks for reading!
regards, Tien
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