I and my husband lavished our first child with much attention upon birth and displayed longer patience for him even to his tantrums. After 3 years, I gave birth to our new daughter, 9-month old now, and surprised that everything has changed regarding the way we relate to our son. We didnít expect this; it feels like an act of nature. Surely we give much attention to our new baby and many times ignore our first child. From this time, he could hear us yelling at him for making a noise so he canít wake up his sleeping sister but I know in my mind that he is still a young boy who needs our care. However, I have hard time balancing my attention for both of them? How can I do that? Am I a bad mother for being not able to manage this inside my heart? Of course I donít want to keep this up. I love them both.