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5th March 2014 04:04 PM #1
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How to discipline a toddler without being to harsh?
I have a hard time disciplining my seven year old son, he seems to listen everytime I am trying to explain why he cannot to that or this. But in the end he will still do it without my knowing. I don't know what to do..pls help..?
26th March 2014 10:20 PM #2
It sounds like you are doing the right thing to me. Children will still want to test the boundaries no matter how much they understand what they can and cannot do.
I wonder if he is behaving inappropriately to get more attention. One excellent theory by L Knost (of Little Hearts Gentle Parenting) is, rather then punishing the bad behaviour, to give a child extra attention in these cases and really try to understand why they are doing things you don't want to do. For example, if you came into a room and your son had emptied the contents of the cupboard onto the floor then sit down with him and say something like 'ah that's a shame all these things are on the floor, shall we read a story together about a messy house and then make up a cleaning up dance'.
Does your son enjoy sports and outside activities? Do you think he has enough opportunities to do these?
I certainly believe that you are right to go down the gentle discipline route. Here is a link to a previous thread on gentle discipline which I hope you will find interesting. With gentle discipline, the focus in on your relationship with your child rather than the behaviour.