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8th August 2014 06:16 PM #1
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How Do You Discipline Your Toddler at Home?
Hello, my husband and I are having a discussion about disciplining our 3 year old son. We want to be consistent with our methods of discipline. Somehow, our son is testing our limits. Like when you say, "do not go there, baby", he would stop for a second and if he thinks we are not looking, he will go his way.
How do you discipline your toddler? Please share your strategies.
11th August 2014 04:44 AM #2
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What a great question! I like to adapt the 8 ideals of attachment parenting older children as below:
1. Prepare - Understand and seek out information on development. Know the social, cognitive and physical limitations of your child at each stage of parenting. Learn about how the brain develops.
2. Feed - Avoid power struggles at meal times. Understand the feeding relationship and the different roles of parents and children.
3. Respond - Avoid ignoring your child even when you are feeling angry. She needs hugs and attention in times of distress just as she did as a baby. Learn empathic listening skills which are more required the older your child gets.
4. Touch - Keep up loving touch - hugs, cuddles, holding hands.
5. Sleep - Continue family bedrooms even in the school-age years if it works for all family members. Problem-solve bedtime issues.
6. Consistent and loving care - Aim for consistency at least 70% of the time. We are human and not 100% perfect!
7. Positive Discipline - Use distraction, modelling and problem-solving. Have family meetings more as your child gets older. Avoid "punishment-lite" methods such as time-out, grounding, and taking things away. Resolve conflicts respectfully as you would with any other person.
8. Self-Care - find time to meet your varied needs. You are important too!
In your specific case, your preschooler still needs a lot of you and if you can give it to her, she will become more secure as she grows. Preschoolers are still very young. Try to find ways to meet your needs with her around if possible. This is a stage that won't last forever!
11th August 2014 07:10 AM #3
What fantastic advice sunnymumof5 - I'm sure this will help many of us on this forum.