My husband claimed its my fault that the kid doesn't recognize his authority.

[Chilou]

Hello,

My husband always claimed its my fault that the kid does not recognized his authority. Most of the time his is very stick with my 4 yr old daughter and sometimes his so rough on her. And i always told him he need to be soft and caring on her so she recognized you. Being so stick and always gave the kid a consequence does not make the situation right.

I always talk to my daughter on what is going on, what is the problem and why? I barely do spank or gave her punishments. My husband if he said something and my daughter doesn't follow immediately it's a punishment. And somehow my daughter got used to it and even more she doesn't listen.

How do i talked to my husband about this?

Thank you,
Jane