Tien's Story

My name is Tien. I am a mother of 3 and the 4th on the way, currently 30wks pregnant with a baby boy. I would like to congratulate you on your pregnancy, birth and beyond website. I loved it especially the birth stories. Your website is very informative  and educational. I see that you only had one teenage birth story online so I would like to share my birth stories with you.

I found out I was pregnant with my 1st child when I was 15yrs old, I was in yr 10 at high school then. I had the feeling I was pregnant but being so young I was in denial and keep pushing it at the back of my mind hoping it will go away on its own. Soon my stomach swelled up so big that I couldn't deny any longer and went to the local doctor with my closest friends. One of my girlfriends went in with me while my other friend and my boyfriend waited outside for the news. I think my friend was in a lot more shock then I was! she kept on say" oh my god, oh my god!"

I went out and told my boyfriend and friends and they were all really happy for us. I was lucky in enough to have a boyfriend that loved me in enough to stick around, and sure enough he stuck for nearly 15yrs now!

Telling my mum and family was my biggest hurdle. I slip it out during a argument with her one night.  She sat me and my boyfriend down and told me that I can either have an abortion  and stay home, continue with my schooling or else I must leave and never to return again. I chose the later. Lucky for me my boyfriends family was very understanding and took me in. My mum did come around to talk to his parents and ask them have a talk with us. My mum desperately wanted me to have an abortion and come home, thinking I am to young to have a child. I continued to stay with my boyfriends family. I had an very easy pregnancy.

The night of 11th of April 1996 I started to have contractions at 9pm, I laboured at home until I no longer can stand it and woke up my boyfriend and his family. We all packed into the car, his mum, dad and 2 younger sisters. The hospital was a long way but been a stormy night it made it so much longer. I didn't have a smooth labour at all. the pain was unbearable, so much that I begged the doctor to give me a c - section even tho I am scared to death of operation! at that time I didn't care as long as the baby was out and the pain gone. I ended up with an epidural and forceps delivery. I wasn't happy at all with the forceps delivery, my baby boy ended up with a 1cm scare right at the corner of one of his eyes, nearly blinding him, beside that he was a healthy boy weighting 2.9kgs.

My mum came to visit the next day and after that. Soon all my family came around as well. My friends were also wonderful. We continued to live with my boyfriends parents until 2001 when we moved out on our own and I fell pregnant again. This pregnancy was also uneventful. The only thing was I had only gain 3 kilos in the whole nine months and doctor was concern that baby wasn't growing inside so she decided to induce me. My 2nd labour was very much different from the first. The pain was much more intense with the Picton. My parents in law asked the nurse when I would be having baby and the nurse said not until late afternoon so my parents in-law said to my partner to ring them when the time is near. My partner also decided to go out and move the car so we were get fined. When he got back I was already starting to push. Lucky he got back just in time! I Push for another 30mins and my little girl came out into the world with a big lungful of scream. she was a healthy but tiny 2.2kgs.

We were trying for another baby straight afterwards but it didn't happen until I finally gave up. My 3rd pregnancy was also uneventful. My waters broke on fathers day while I was getting ready to go out and celebrate with my in-laws. This time labour wasn't so smooth as my last. dilated to 10cm in an hour but after 30mins of pushing doctor decided to vacuum because baby was still high up and wont come down. The pain was unbelievable. The didn't give me any drugs at all and I felt every tug and pull. My partner sat there looking very angry and upset. He didn't like what he was seeing at all and was in no mood to support me either. Afterwards I asked him why he didn't give me any encouragement and he said his heart was torn apart seeing how much pain I was in and seeing the doctor trying to rip out his sons head! I think if the doctor gave baby more time he will come down on his own. My son came out with an extra thumb but he was a very healthy baby , weighting 2.8kgs. We named him Alex and he is having his extra thumb remove in 2 weeks time. Lucky it does effect his hand movement at all and will not make it look deform either.

I am now 30wks pregnant with my fourth baby. So far so good. The only discomfort I feel is my ribs being sore from baby poking it. I am praying this time around I wont have to have assisted labour.

Even though I have an happy ending but if given the chance I would do it differently. I would try to finish my schooling before I start a family, but having said that I would never swap my kids for anything at all, they are my life and joy. I am hoping to go back to studying once my kids are all in school. My oldest is in high school this year, my daughter started preschool and my youngest at home. Got my hands full now!

thanks for reading!

regards, Tien

Comments

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lisa and elana
Feb 14, 2011 5:39pm [ 1 ]

OMG how could you deal with that. I'm 15 and mum said if I ever got pregnant she will kick me outta home and diswown me. How was it raising a child when ur still a kid.... :) xox lisa and my mate elana

Ellen
Jun 20, 2011 5:15pm [ 2 ]

im 15 and possibly pregnant, the one thing im scared of the most is having to tell my parents, i think that my dad would never want to see me again and i dont know if my mum would kick me out(i live with my mum and dont have a very good relationship with my dad), my boyfriend dumped me a week after we had, had sex, he says he would be there for me but there is a chance that he will be moving back to queensland so i dont belive that he will be able to be there for me. i know that all my friends would be there for me and they will support me with it all. my ex boyfriend said that he wouldnt want to keep the baby but i know that i wouldnt be able to live with my self if i got rid of it. are you happy that you didnt have an aborstion and do u agree with me not wanting to have one?

Lilly
Nov 9, 2011 9:11am [ 3 ]

Was it hard to cope with having the baby. I was born when my mother was 17 and she loves me don't get me wrong but sometimes she resentes me. My boyfriend and i are planning to start trying when i 'm seventeen so i was wondering if it was hard.

Aimee
Dec 16, 2011 5:04pm [ 4 ]

I'm 19 and about 16 weeks pregnant with my first baby and am going for the first ultrasound in about a week and a half. My boyfriend and I just broke up so I'm going to be a single mum. Its going to be hard at times but I know that with support I'll be able to manage on my own. My family and friends are really supportive about it but I still have times of going 'woah!'. When I first found out I was pregnant I was considering an abortion because I didnt feel ready to have a baby but all in all I'm really glad that I didnt get rid of my baby. I got to hear it's little heart beat yesterday too and It was magical.

kirstin
Jan 16, 2012 10:07am [ 5 ]

hey im kirstin and im 19 and 6weeks pregnant i hope its not going to be hard and im not scared of the labor but i have epilepsy and my bf has a genetic eye cancer thing which if i have a boy he could get so im hoping its a girl and im from the uk =D

shari
Jan 20, 2012 11:35am [ 6 ]

I think it's amazing how you had a baby at 15 and you're still going strong. their are people like you in this world that need to have their story put out to help teenaged mums get their head around things. you should be proud of what you're doing and proud of what you've done.

Ellen
Sep 27, 2012 1:32am [ 7 ]

I am almost 15 and possiable pregnant after a one night stand I am really worried about child birth how much pain is on a scale of 1to 10??

Zee
Jul 21, 2013 11:59pm [ 8 ]

I'm 16. My boyfriend and I had sex. Then he cheated on me. I dumped him. Three days later, I found out that I am pregnant. That was just yesterday. I am 4 weeks, and haven't told anyone. I'm scared, and don't know what to do.

zandra
Jul 24, 2013 8:28am [ 9 ]

I am 18, I am 30 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. I have been living on my own for about a year now. I was still in school when we found out I was pregnant. my boyfriend is older than me... he is 25 years old, I was so scared to tell my mom and dad that I was pregnant I thought that they would not talk to me anymore and was so scared that my boyfriend would leave me, but I broke down and told everyone and everyone is here for me, even my boyfriend. I am so thankful, I think you sharing your story is amazing.

Courtney
Sep 8, 2013 9:31pm [ 10 ]

Heyya; im 15 and pregnant and im keeping the baby

Vanessa
Oct 25, 2013 12:10pm [ 11 ]

Im 15 my daughter is 3 months i got a pregnant at 14 me and my boyfriend are still together everything is great

kamyra thompson
Dec 28, 2013 4:55pm [ 12 ]

if you don't mind me asking how old were you when you had your third child.and how old are you know

Deviney Bennett
Jan 1, 2014 9:44am [ 13 ]

All of these stories are remarkable. It shows how no matter how old you are, the care of the child will all ways be cared for. I'm 20 years old, I recently found out that I can't have kids on my own. I think no matter how old you are, you are all still lucky to have a family. I've all ways wanted to be a mother, but sadly my heart is broken.

Abbey
Jan 14, 2014 1:32pm [ 14 ]

I'm 14 (almost 15) and I think I'm pregnant. Any advise that anyone could give would be great because I want to keep the baby.

Imilie Alize
Jan 28, 2014 4:36am [ 15 ]

I know exactly how you feel, im 17 with twin girls and a 2 year old boy. it isn't easy and I wish I would of waited.. I don't regret my children because all of them are blessings I just should of waited some time!! Good luck to all you future parents. <3

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